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When everything is going well it can be easy to settle down quickly, but learning how not to rush into a relationship will benefit you in the long run. Rushing into a relationship isn’t usually something you plan on doing, it just happens. When you don’t take the time to slow down and really get to know each other, things can move too quickly. Learning how not to rush into a relationship is key when it comes to having a lasting relationship. But, it is easier said than done. When you rush into a relationship, it happens without you even noticing. And sometimes it can feel so right and that’s great, but may not be sustainable. Why it is so easy to rush into a relationship Practically speaking, it should be easy not to rush into a relationship. You know that rushing in without thinking or really knowing someone probably won’t work out and may lead to both of you being hurt. But, that is the problem when romantic feelings are involved, logic and reason go out the window. [Read: 20 sp...

You’ve been chatting with this person, and everything seems perfect until it starts to get confusing. Are you able to recognize the signs of breadcrumbing? Ah yes, the agony of recognizing the signs of breadcrumbing in a budding romance! But before we get there, if you’ve never heard of this term, well, in some cases, it’s a good thing. But if this has happened to you, obviously, you want to know the name for it. Have you ever met someone, and there was this click ? The conversation is going really well, and in your head, you think something good may come out of this. You two are texting all the time, even talking on the phone, but nothing goes past that. They’re not asking to see you, not making any new plans – nothing. And maybe you’re still talking to them right now. Well, if this has or is happening to you, this is called breadcrumbing. What is breadcrumbing? So what is breadcrumbing exactly. Well, breadcrumbing is when someone is consciously leading another person on for th...

You’ve met the love of your life, and you’re ticking off cute relationship goals one by one. Life is good! But, what exactly are those goals? You’re on the fast track road to coziness and total bliss, and you keep hearing about cute relationship goals and checklists all the time. But what are they, and how many more have you got left to achieve? Every relationship is different, and we certainly shouldn’t focus too much on comparisons with other couples. So what if Sally and Mark from down the road have just got engaged and they’ve only been together six months, and you’ve been together four years? There is no timeline to a relationship, and you certainly shouldn’t put pressure on yourselves, or feel lacking, because you’re not hitting the same so-called milestones as them! What you can do however, is look towards these cute relationship goals, to prove that you’re making progress at your own pace. [Read: 14 unrealistic relationship expectations that WILL ruin your love life ] For ...

You and your partner are like two peas in a pod. But extreme codependency is not healthy for either of you. Let’s find out the signs of codependency. My first serious relationship had alarming signs of codependency on both sides of the relationship. I relied on my partner for my happiness, and always had an excuse ready for his poor and controlling behavior. Needless to say, the relationship was one-sided, and I spent most of my time making huge sacrifices while he expected me to make them. And that’s what a codependent relationship is. It’s when one person is significantly investing more into the relationship than the other partner. For example, I wanted to help my partner, and I took his struggles as my own. This made me even more connected to him than I actually was. How to recognize a codependent relationship Codependent relationships aren’t always easy to spot out right away. People who are “takers” will throw their partners small rewards here and there, making sure they come...

Maybe someone’s called you a beta cuck, and you’re not sure what it means. Or you know what it means, but you’re wondering if it’s normal. Let’s find out. When it comes to knowing the world of sex, we’ve created a list of things that are considered sexual norms. But in reality, sex isn’t something you can define and stuff into one box. Sex is extremely subjective. And that’s something you need to understand before we delve into what a beta cuck is. Some couples don’t physically touch each other, yet, when they stare into each other’s eyes, they feel they’re having sex. Does that fit into the framework of “conventional sex?” Absolutely not! If anything, most people would struggle to accept that staring into someone’s eyes could be equated to sex. But for that couple, it is sex. Some people wear gags and leashes, indulging in acts that some other people wouldn’t consider to be sex. So, what I’m trying to get at is sex is subjective. [Read: The top 50 kinky sex ideas everyone’s gotta...

In a relationship fueled with games, learning how to respond to the silent treatment coming your way will give you back your power. The silent treatment in a relationship is a form of emotional abuse. It’s that simple. It’s designed to infuriate you, create panic and worry, make you question everything you said before the episode happened. Designed to rob you of control and self-esteem, you apologize for something you never did. But learning how to respond to the silent treatment will help you take back your power. From a personal point of view, there is nothing more childish or annoying than someone who refuses to speak to you, simply ignoring you out of a power play. It’s designed to get you to keep talking, literally begging them to say something. In the end, you want to scream  “say something!” All you get is a wry smile. [Read: Don’t overlook these important signs of emotional abuse ] Power play gone wrong If your partner is a regular mute when things don’t go their way, ...

First dates are hard enough. Make the entire process easier with this guide on where to go on a first date for the best vibe. First dates are almost always awkward. But with the best suggestions for where to go on a first date, you can create awesome vibes, and create a memorable time with your date. The awkward first date There is the introduction where you don’t know if you should hug or shake hands or kiss on the cheek. So, you go in for a hug but start shaking their whole body. And you end up with a red shameful face of embarrassment for the rest of the night. If you’re meeting online, you might be worried that you won’t remember what they look like or that they might look nothing like their photo. You could get a bad reaction to food if you try a new restaurant and can’t tell someone you just met you’re having diarrhea. There is also the dreaded awkward silence that it seems like some first dates of made of. But, your first date does not have to be this horrible or even sli...

Maybe there was someone you liked romantically who’s ghosted you. But being ghosted by a friend also is not an easy situation to go through. There are times when friends go their separate ways with anger or animosity between them. Things happen, and people’s lives go their own ways. But this is entirely different than being ghosted by a friend. Have you been ghosted by someone you like? If so, though it hurts, you moved on. But romantic relationships are different from long-term friendships. Your friends should carry on through your life, no matter who you’re in a romantic relationship with. But no one really talks about the importance of friendships. And when a friend decides to cut you out of their life, it’s confusing and hurtful. [Read: Why being ghosted hurts so much and what you need to do about it ] How to handle being ghosted by a friend I’m guilty of ghosting a friend. I was fifteen and didn’t know how to handle the relationship. We were really good friends, but I felt suf...

Have you ever felt like someone was simply meant to be in your life? If so, you have experienced the wonder of a soul connection.   Whether you believe in destiny, fate, and karma *or not*, you must admit that sometimes it’s completely possible to have a sense that someone was meant to walk into your life. Everything about them seems in sync with you and what you need at that current time. You feel a soul connection and pulled towards them with no real explanation of why. Have you ever experienced a soul connection? Is a soul connection only romantic? Now, many people wrongly assume that a soul connection can only be forged between two people romantically. That is false. Your soul can be connected to someone in various types of relationships. It could be a mentor, friend, teacher, family member, even a neighbor. They don’t have to be someone you’re destined to fall in love with and learn deep lessons from. It can be a person in your life from whom you learn something about you...

If something isn’t making you feel good, let it go. Learning how to let go of resentment isn’t as easy as it sounds. But it doesn’t mean you can’t do it. I remember when a friend betrayed me for the first time. She was my best friend and neighbor. She slept with my very first boyfriend while I was dating him. I wasn’t angry that he cheated on me. I let those feelings go pretty quickly because I wasn’t in love with him. But I was very angry with her, and I didn’t know how to let go of resentment for her betrayal. The worst part was that they dated after I broke up with him. I never felt betrayal like that before. I didn’t know what to do, but I did know I despised her. And I couldn’t even hear her name, let alone be within eyesight of her. During their relationship, I was incredibly angry. But I played the “I don’t care” card and let the anger sit in me, slowly building up. [Read: How to deal with the pain when someone hurts you ] How to let go of resentment and start living I ne...

Even with trust and honesty, feeling unsure about what to do when his best friend is a girl can be worrisome and make you feel insecure. Having a boyfriend is great. Having a boyfriend whose best friend is a girl can also be great. But wondering what to do when his best friend is a girl… is also normal. Whether you have been cheated on in the past and carry trust issues with you, or not, we all get jealous once in a while. It’s normal to have questions or even doubt when your beau is spending so much time with another girl. Before you go overanalyzing every moment between them, find out if your concerns are based in reality. [Read: How to learn to let go of your relationship insecurity and learn to love more ] Is it a problem that his best friend is a girl? When your boyfriend’s best friend is a girl, your first feeling may be jealousy. But before you jump to conclusions, consider if this is really a bad thing or if you’re just overreacting. Reading too far into this type of situ...